To understand the work of Family Constellations, it helps if we think of our family is an organic unit, much like a plant or an animal. Just as there are certain basic requirements for a tree to be healthy there are also basic requirements for a family to be healthy. A tree needs to send its roots down into nourishing soil and its trunk needs to be strong enough to support its branches. Similarly, in a family the parents need to be able to be strong enough to support their children and the children need to be able to accept their parents' love.

When the natural order of the family is not followed, for example when the children behave like parents and the parents behave like children, then love does not flow effectively in that family. So ignoring these orders of love can lead to consequences for family members that may last for many generations, blighting peoples' lives and limiting their potential in the world. Sometimes these orders are even less obvious. For example someone can be forgotten for various reasons such as dying young. This upsets the family system, which tries to restore order by having someone else in the system represent the forgotten one. If for example a brother represents an uncle who dies while still a child, then he has two irreconcilable roles. While everyone in the family is largely unconscious of this, it causes confusion and difficulties within the family system.

The image is of a river of love flowing through the family members down through the generations the course of which has commonly become distorted in various ways and with varying degrees of severity.

Families can only function harmoniously when each family member has an equally valued place and is respected. So when a family member is forgotten or cut off this usually has negative consequences for everyone in that family. Perfect harmony is then possible as each family member can know, honor and appreciate the fact that they are part of a bigger unit; and when each family member is acknowledged and given their appropriate place.

When individuals try to make things better without regard for the whole family system, it is usually doomed to fail. A great effort may cause things to improve for a little while. I.e. better communication with a sibling. However when the systemic entanglements are not dealt with they continue to make things difficult. So the communication problems may return with the brother, or the improved communication there may cause difficulties between other members of the family. Constellations offer us the hope that a solution that benefits everyone in the family is possible.
A constellation allows participants to see the underlying dynamics of problems and to start exploring them creatively. Thus people's perceptions change. They develop a new understanding of where their problems come from, and of what will help to resolve them and heal a multitude of Family of Origin issues.

 Constellations may also be used to look the major organs of the body such as: Kidneys, Liver, Lungs, Heart, Pancreas and so on and so forth. 

Each of these organs works together in harmony in order to preserve the good functioning of the human organism. However, we have observed that the major organs in themselves carry and store memories and at times these memories are not even our own, but originate from the family system. For example, the trauma experienced by your ancestors could be stored in your kidneys leading to dysfunction in the entire system.

I have extensive training and experience in Family Constellations. Even though the ultimate Family Constellations experience is in groups, Family Constellations issues can be worked out in an individual session; Energy Psychotherapy helps accelerate the process.

 Please read our article: Breakups and Family Constellations

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